“This is a daring, delightful, and transformative book.”Arianna Huffington
Founder, Huffington Post and Founder & CEO, Thrive Global
“Some people are great writers, and other people are great therapists. Lori Gottlieb is, astoundingly, both.”Katie Couric
Award-winning journalist and New York Times bestselling author of The Best Advice I Ever Got: Lessons from Extraordinary Lives
Every year, nearly 30 million Americans sit on a therapist’s couch—and some of these patients are therapists. In her remarkable new book, therapist and bestselling author Lori Gottlieb tells us that despite her license and rigorous training, her most significant credential is that she’s a card-carrying member of the human race. “I know what it’s like to be a person,” she writes, as a crisis catapults her into the office of a quirky but more seasoned psychologist named Wendell. With startling humor, wisdom, and compassion, Gottlieb takes readers on a riveting journey—from Wendell’s consultation room to her own, where she reveals the psychology behind how our minds work while attempting to help a self-absorbed Hollywood producer; a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness; a senior citizen threatening to end her life in one year if nothing gets better; and a 20-something who can’t stop hooking up with the wrong guys—including one from the waiting room. As Wendell—whom Gottlieb calls “the Yoda to my Luke Skywalker”—helps her to heal, both therapist and her patients struggle to uncover their blind spots and answer life’s most essential questions: about desire and need, emptiness and meaning, terror and courage, guilt and redemption, loneliness and love.
Along the way, Gottlieb examines the stories we tell to ourselves and others, the truths and the fictions, and how we evolve from “unreliable narrators” to letting others bear witness to our lives. “We grow in connection with others—we are mirrors reflecting mirrors reflecting mirrors, showing one another what we can’t yet see,” Gottlieb writes, offering a simultaneously deeply personal and universal tour of an elusive process and its power to transform us, to quite possibly life changing effect.